BERI AKU NAMA.

Hiruk pikuk di sebuah stesen bas tiba-tiba jadi sepi. Seorang pakcik berserban hitam putih dan berbaju melayu warna putih menjadi tumpuan.

Tuan puan masih menunggu ketibaan bas untuk ke destinasi? Dia menyoal. Tanpa menunggu jawapan dia melanjutkan kata.

Izinkan saja meminjam 5minit tuan-puan untuk bekalan saham akhirat kita semua.

Dan kami seakan terpaku. Angin berhenti berhembus dan tutur katanya membius rasa.

Hidup ini ialah mimpi. Dan kematian ialah perubahan detik saat manusia dibangkit dari lena yang panjang. Apakah masih indah mimpi tuan puan di atas katil yang empuk atau tilam yang menyebar lena yang panjang hingga subuh kalian sering terbabas?

Malam pertama di dalam kubur. Sudahkah tuan-puan adik kakak bersedia meski soalan sudah bocor?

SIAPA TUHAN KAMU?

Mampukah menjawab Tuhan ialah Allah saat peraturan-Nya dikatakan kolot dan ketinggalan zaman?

SIAPA NABI KAMU?

Masihkah mengaku Muhammad saw sebagai Utusan-Nya saat sunnahnya dipersenda? Mereka yang menyimpan janggut (bukan misai melenting) dianggap tidak uptodate.

APAKAH UGAMA KAMU?

Masihkah mampu mengaku Islam saat gaya hidup jauh tersasar dari landasan Islam sebenar? Kamu menuduh mereka yang melaksanakan Islam sebagai jumud dan tertinggal di zaman batu-tak sesuai untuk peredaran masa sekarang.

MALAM PERTAMA DI ALAM KUBUR

Gelap seluruh ruang

Seorang diri kesunyian tanpa teman

Disoal Munkar Nakir bertubi-tubi

Paluan hukuman atas dosa besar dan kecil

Tulang temulang dihimpit sehingga oksigen tiada ruang

Andai pernah membaca dan mengamalkan isi al-Quran, maka ia menjelma sebagai teman, pelindung saat sekujur tubuh mula dipalu dan menjadi saksi pelindung dari melakukan dosa.

Dia berlalu meninggalkan kami muhasabah diri 5 minit.

DAN BERIKANLAH PERINGATAN, KERANA IA MEMBERI MANFAAT KEPADA ORANG MU’MIN. 

KISAH 2CINTA2INSAN1SOLUSI

INTRO PENDEK: Oh, dia dah rasuah aku untuk menerima huluran rasanya. Dan aku hampir tewas. Aku marah kepada diri sendiri. Kenapa aku begini mudah menyerah dan tewas dengan ‘rasuah’ yang tak seberapa itu. Hmm...

Aku tak menolak dia, tapi aku tak mahu ‘jual ikan’ dengan hanya mahu bila perlu dan ketepikan bila tak perlu.

INTI RASA:

Aku di kamar sepi saat adik merapatiku. Mukanya seakan ada tanda tanya bersarang di minda.

Kak, kau kisah tak kalau aku langkah bendul?

Dup! Jantungku berdetak keras dan laju.

Kau mahu kahwin?

Aku mahu bertunang dulu.

Aku diam membisu seribu bahasa dan memaksa diri berfikir sebelum memberi respon.

“Apa salahnya.” Kedengaran lirih dan ragu tanpa rasa yakin.

Dan ingatanku beralih kepada dia. Kenapa dia enggan kunjung datang. Apa isyaratku tak cukup kuat untuk menggerakkan hati dia. Aku hanyut dalam lamunan sendiri dan kembali memujuk diri.

Dik, jodoh itu urusan Tuhan, bukan urusan umur. Andai tertulis jodohmu di depan, meski usiaku di atas usiamu. biarlah aku beralah, memberi aku peluang bergelar kakak ipar sebelum bergelar isteri. Memberi aku peluang menyudahkan sesi pengajian dan tenggelam ke alam kerja seraya menyumbang bakti kepada kedua bonda dan ayahanda sebelum menundukkan semua kemahuan di bawah titah seorang pemimpin yang bernama suami.

Ayah dan mak menghantar aku sejauh ini bukan untuk apa melainkan di hati mereka terpahat setinggi Everest harapan agar punya waktu berbakti kepada keluarga sebelum membina keluarga sendiri. Impian mereka sedalam Jurang Mariana biar aku gah membina kerjaya dan berbakti kepada masyarakat agar jerih perih mereka seakan terbayar (meski seluruh dunia takkan mampu mencukupi untuk menghitung budi mereka).

Dik, aku punya ‘hutang’ untuk dibalas sebelum aku melunaskan keperluan diri sendiri. Meski jauh di sudut hatiku seakan sedikit pilu, namun aku mengeri jalanan ini yang terbaik untukku.

POST EID ADHA 1432H

Oh Tuhan, tiba-tiba aku dilanda badai semusim. Rindu yang keterlaluan. Rindu menggebu untuk kembali mengaktifkan diri dalam dunia penulisan. Seumpama rinduku pada anak-anak saudara yang tak pernah padam. Berjumpa seketika hanya menyurutkan rasa rindu tak pernah mampu memadamkan rasa yang sentiasa mekar.

Semuanya ini berakibat lantaran usai membaca novel terbaru (tak la baru sangat, baru ambil dari adik aku, dia dah pesan awal-awal jangan beli coz dia dah beli walaupun aku yang habis baca dulu) Andrea Hirata Dwilogi Padang Bulan dan Cinta di Dalam Gelas.

Bahasanya masih memikat, sama seperti tetralogi Laskar Pelangi. 

Kemunculan watak Ikal dan Lintang masih menjuarai. Maryamah Karpov aka Enong bt Zamzami menguasai seluruh cerita. Kali ini dia tampil sebagai jagoan catur berbanding sebagai pemain biola dalam naskah terakhir tetralogi Laskar Pelangi.

Bagi diriku petanda aku diheret masuk dalam plot novel dengan jalan cerita yang menarik ialah apabila aku tak mampu menahan godaan sedemikian cepat untuk mencapai muka surat terakhir novel. Mahu melompat, ini bukan novel cinta yang boleh dilompat ke halaman akhir sesuka hati. Lantas aku bersekang mata menghabiskan dwilogi untuk mengetahui kesudahan cerita. Tak semua cerita yang aku boleh baca bab 1, tengah dan bab terakhir..okay.

Itu sahaja novel yang berjaya dibaca cuti ini dan majalah I juga cukup menguja jejari untuk kembali mengetip keyboard laptop.

Cerita apa ye. Sebagai pelajar yang tak pernah menemui titik noktah. Belajar itu kan berterusan dari buaian hingga liang lahad. Cuti sempena Eid hanya sehari. Lantaran 10 Zulhijjah tanggalnya ialah Ahad, maka hari Isnin mencukupkan cuti 3 hari. Berangkat ke tanah Serendah Sekebun Bunga usai Jumaat (aku tak pernah solat Jumaat, tau solat Zohor je), tiba hampir 630pm di Machang. Transit seketika (macam biasa) di situ sebelum menaiki bas 90minit ke desa tercinta. Bandar paling cantik dan bahagia dalam dunia..hehe.

9zulhijjah, mak kawan aku ajak sahur untuk puasa sunat. Jadi menjimatkan apabila aku melalui bandar TM tanpa membeli makanan (selera makan aku boleh tahan juga saat bermusafir-junk food & segala macam makanan untuk orang rumah mesti dibeli) dan memandangkan kesulitan aku keseorangan naik bas membimbit dua biji beg yang boleh tahan beratnya (macam la cuti sebulan, padahal 3 hari je), maka aku membataskan niat untuk membeli, hanya sekadar window shopping & cuci mata je.Cuki kaki juga ..haha.

Pusing TM, hampr jam 1230 sewaktu aku sibuk membelek sandal & kasut (nasib baik rasional aku masih mendominsai, sempat menimbang pro & cons dan membatalkan niat untuk membeli walaupun cantik sangat sandal tu...padan muka nafsu, dia kalah lagi, mungkin aku waras lagi sebab berkat puasa & memikirkan poket yang tak berapa tebal), bunyi orang telefon. Tengok-tengok adik aku rupanya.

Apa dia nak? 12jam dari KL, dia tersadai di TM jam 12tengahari. Bajet naik bas jam 1pm, kami ke pasar. Adik aku pesan kelubi (sebenarnya kakak aku yang pesan & kami kenduri kelubi..wah..sangat membuatkan saliva aku bekerja sangat pantas) dan aku suruh adik aku pegang beg tu. Nasib baik dia lelaki, boleh juga disuruh bawa barang-barang berat.

Dan aku sampai di teratak tercinta hampir jam 1430. Anak-anak kakak aku ada kat rumah. Mood: bahagia..hehe. walid diorang pun tak ada. Mood:lagi bahagia. Bukan sebab tak suka, tapi menjaga aurat dengan abang ipar, rasa macam susah sikit kat rumah. Akhirnya, aku berkurung je dalam bilik sebab malas nak bersopan-santun. Dia pun macam faham je, duduk rumah aku kejap-kejap keluar. Bagi peluang aku dan adik ‘buas’ haha.

Lagi satu aku perasan anak-anak saudara aku lagi rapat dengan abah/walid/abi diorang berbanding umi/umi/umi mereka. Bak kata sorang tu, tanya anak siapa, jawapan bukan umi, tapi abah. Kalau abah dia ada, tak pandang dah orang lain, berkepit dan senyum sampai ke telinga la dengan abah dia. 

Abah dia dukung sepupu pun dia jealous.

Macam anak abi pula, tak nampak abi depan mata je cari: Mana abi? Nak buat semua benda dengan abi. Macam anak walid, berkepit je dengan walid. Masa walid tak ada je, baru layan mak-mak sedara yang kempunan nak dukung &peluk cium mereka. Aduhai anak-anak saudaraku yang comel-comel dan tinggi pun dah makin melepasi mak sedara.

Ok. Pasal raya pula. Tahun ni kakak aku buat aqiqah anak sulung dia. Aqiqah afdalnya daging dimasak dan dibuat semacam kenduri. Tapi, memandangkan semua orang pun ada majlis masing-masing dan kehadiran dijangka tidak memuaskan maka mak aku dan abang ipar memutuskan untuk tidak membuat kenduri. Bahagi je daging tu macam afdalnya korban.

Raya pertama kami sibuk mengerjakan daging tu je. Lembu ‘ca lo le’ haha. Boleh dapat 19kg untuk rm 380 kot, aku tak pasti. Sangat besar, abang aku bawa balik kepala dan aku tengok memamg sangat besar. Kemudian abang-abang dan adik aku mengerjakan lembu tu sampai ke tengah ‘balai’. Dua orang pegang tanduk kanan kiri dan seorang lagi pegang kapak. Macam apa ntah aku tengok.

Kemudian mak aku masak gulai otak. Owh..aku tengok je, tak rasa nak makan pun. Kemudian masak sup (hidangan utama), singgang (yang aku boleh bilang dengan jari berapa kali jumpa luar kelantan), daging bakar, goreng dan sup perut. Owh nikmatnya perut cicah air asam. Balik ni aku tak sempat buat sambal belacan aku yang sedap tu sebab bz (alasan..hehe). Sambal pauh ringan pun tak sempat sebab daging-daging tu merampas semua selera aku.

Malam raya tu abang aku dah kena balik key el. Dia keja raya ke-2. Baru aku tau bukannya aku seorang yang payah nak tinggal rumah. Dari lepas maghrib, dia bersiap. Siap galas beg, anak saudara aku bawa naik ketupat padan dengan rendang ayam. Dia pun bersila sambil menggalas beg dan kami makan sambil bersembang. Lawan pula dengan air teh songket laici&rose yang aku buat. Memang umph.

Dan azan Isya’ pun berbunyi dari masjid berdekatan. Dia pun meletakkan beg itu kembali dan solat Isya’ dulu sebelum berangkat. Susah juga rupanya untuk orang berkahwin meninggalkan rumah..haha. Kakak aku lagi lucu. Abang ipar aku pergi solat masjid. Masa makan tu boleh dia panggil aku abang, ingat kat laki dia la tu. Haha. Pergi sekejap pun dah rindu:P. 

Masakan tidak, kalau bercerita, tak minta persetujuan suami dia tak sah. Sikit-sikit, betul kan bang. Haha. Kalau dia baca, (dia malu bila kitorang gelak beramai-ramai sebenarnya), biar dia tahu aku rasa nak gelak tergolek tengok muka dia masa tu, kelakar sangat.

Semua tidur awal malam tu. Berperang dengan anak saudara, akhirnya aku dan adik membuat keputusan untuk tidur. Namun sebaik lampu dinyalakan dan kami mengadap buku, semua pun datang menyerbu. Buku aku paling mendapat tumpuan,al maklum semua nak jadi doktor gigi bila dah besar nanti. Huhu. Terpaksa aku membelek 2 biji buku dan menerangkan gambar tu satu persatu sebagaimana aku pernah menerangkan pasal salivary gland kat anak saudara yang lain. Tak sangka dia hafal cepat je diagram aku.

Kemudian abang aku bising, kenapa tak simpan daging kat dapur. Aku dan adik pun turun mengemas dapur. Peti kami masuk wad, kurang gas oksigen agaknya. Nasib baik ada peti beku yang digunakan masa mak aku buka kedai dulu. Setelkan semua benda tu, naik ke atas, semua dah tidur. Kami menyertai mereka ke alam mimpi.

Esoknya aku bangun setelah berkali adik aku marah-marah. Haha. Kemudian kami pergi rumah kak ipar aku tengok Amanina anak abah yang dah lama tak tengok (padahal baru sebulan tak jumpa). Rindu membuatkan sedetik terlalu lambat berjalan.

Kemudian, plan asal untuk naik bas ke TM jam 3pm terpaksa ditukar ke planB. Aku ikut abang aku yang balik ke negeri penyu dan dia drop aku kat Machang. Jammed dan hujan, hampir jam 1am sampai ke Kuantan.

Ini pendahuluan cerita:

Aku pasrah dengan takdir. Siapalah aku untuk mempersoal takdir kan? Lagipun hidup ini ialah takdir yang ditadbir.

Tambahan:

Semua di dunia ini ialah fana. Jadi, jangan bimbang atau sedih bila kehilangan. Contohnya: aku tukar IC baru, jadi JPN ambil IC lama aku yang comel (hehe, syok sendiri). Aku redha.

Contoh paling tragis pagi ni la. Aku semangat iron baju kurung baru. Dan iron itu sangat kejam merobek hatiku. Ia membakar sebahagian baju baru pemberian insan yang aku sayang itu tanpa belas. Hangit terbau, dalam lagi luka di hati ini.

Mood: sedih namun pasrah.

Contoh lain, aku pasrah je bila insan yang melanggar bontot motor aku dengan bucu keretanya dengan alasan tragis: Maaf, tak nampak. Oh, sungguh kerdil motor aku (dan aku yang slim mlim) dibanding dengan keretanya yang menjalar.

Trauma membuatkan aku mengucap (sungguh-sungguh insaf)sebelum bawa motor tu atas jalan. Guna motor tu macam pergi medan perang. Aku silap, aku yang kena langgar. Mereka silap, mereka yang melanggar. Apa daya? Dan belakang aku temporarily sakit. Nasib baik sementara je. Aku dah risau tahap gaban dah sampai keluar air mata telefon bonda (manja kan aku..haha).

Contoh lain ialah cinta aku sejak di Ma’had menghilangkan diri. Mata-mata itu MIA-missing in action setelah sekian lama berjasa dengan bingkai biru (owh, aku suka warna biru, tapi sekarang aku lebih suka warna pelangi). Dan dia akan kekal dalam kenangan sebagai cinta pertama. Mencari pengganti? Tunggu dulu, biar parut luka itu hilang dulu..huhu.

Cerita hari ini. Ingatkan nak pergi lab untuk siapkan susun gigi untuk try in esok malam, tapi terperangkap pula dengan research. Habis perah otak, yes EUREKA. Rasa macam dah layak jadi Biostastician plak (untuk 1milisecond) je la..haha.

Budak sem cuti mid sem+raya haji sekarang. Jadi kafe ditutup. Nanar aku keluar cari makan. Kedai pun major tutup. Masih mood beraya gamaknya.

Cerita pasal studi sikit boleh? Sikit je. Dulu masa requirement ditambah kena 5 cases extensive caries & 5 cases deep caries managment, aku dah kalut. Mana nak cari kaviti. Dah la patient aku macam shallow je cavity. Tapi rupa-rupanya akhir-akhir ni asyik buat deep caries management je. Terpaksa pula buat TF sebab direct pulp capping.

The rest is history..nanti aku sambung lain kali, nak siapkan kotak urgent dulu.

p/s: aku dirasuk rasa ingin menulis menyebabkan aku menganaktitikan teman masa resah-cik puan winlinez. Kita jumpa lain kali yea..hehe. Jangan pernah tinggal daku.

MARRIED ALREADY

Being sad with the right people is better than being happy with the wrong ones.

Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear

A champion is someone who gets up, even when he can't

17 most important things to remember in life

1. Never give up on anybody;miracles happen everyday.

2. Be brave even if your not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference. 

3. Think big thoughts, relish small pleasures.

4. Learn to listen. Oppurtunity sometimes knocks very softly.

5. Never deprive someone of hope, it might be all they have.

6. Strive for excellence, not perfection.

7. Don't waste time grieving over past mistakes. Learn from them and move on.

8. When someone hugs you let them be the first to let go.

9. Never cut what can be untied.

10. Don't expect life to be fair.

11. Remember:Success comes to the one that acts first.

12. Never waste an oppurtunity to tell someone you love them.

13. Remember that nobody makes it alone. Have a greatful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who help you.

14. Never underestimate the power of a kind word or deed.

15. Laugh alot.A good sense of humor cures almost all of life's ills.

16. Don't miss the magic of the moment by focusing on whats to come.

17. Watch for big problems. They disguise big oppurtunities.

A true friend sees the first tear... catches the second... and stops the third

If all my friends were to jump off a bridge, I wouldn't jump with them, I'd be at the bottom to catch them

The truth is... I gave my heart away a long time ago, my whole heart... and I never really got it back

I'm going to smile like nothings wrong, talk like everythings perfect, act like it's all a dream, and pretend it's not hurting me.

Don't waste your time on someone who isn't willing to waste their time on you.

Coz Things worth having are worth waiting for

 

Have you ever wondered which hurts the most: saying something and wishing you had not, or saying nothing, and wishing you had?

Sometimes people put up walls, not to keep others out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.

If I could be any part of you, I’d be your tears. To be conceived in your heart, born in your eyes, live on your cheeks, and die on your lips.

Never give up on something that you can't go a day without thinking about.

When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile.

It's amazing how someone can break your heart, but you still love them with all the little pieces.

Love is giving someone the power to destroy you...but trusting them not to.

Should I smile because we are friends? Or cry because we'll never be anything more?

If I could give you one thing in life, I would give you the ability to see yourself through my eyes, only then would you realize how special you are to me...

Never tell your problems to anyone...20% don't care and the other 80% are glad you have them.

Eleven Hints for Life

1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return.
But what is more painful is to love someone and never
find the courage to let that person know how you feel.

2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who
means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was
never meant to be and you just have to let go.

3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a
porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away
feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.

4. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose
it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been
missing until it arrives.

5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an
hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it
takes a lifetime to forget someone.

6. Don't go for looks, they can deceive. Don't go for wealth,
even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you
smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day
seem bright.

7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go,
be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and
one chance to do all the things you want to do.

8. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it
hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.

9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck
a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may
heal and bless.

10. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best
of everything they just make the most of everything that comes
along their way.

11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with
a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone
around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die,
you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.

There are three types of people in this world: those who make things happen, those who watch things happen and those who wonder what happened.

 

When you feel cold and warm at the same time,
when you read over the same line for the tenth time,
when your heart and thoughts somehow appear to rhyme,
and when a simple name conquers your whole mind,
then you are in deep trouble my friend... you are in what they call, "love".

 

Watch your thoughts; they become words.

Watch your words; they become actions.

Watch your actions; they become habits.

Watch your habits; they become character.

Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.

 

When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place '

People will forget what you said.
People will forget what you did.
But people will never forget how you made them feel.

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.

A guy and a girl can be friends. But sooner or later one will fall for the other. Maybe too early, maybe too late, but maybe, just maybe forever.

Friendship isn't about whom you have known the longest... It's about who came, and never left your side...

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don't give up though the pace seems slow--
You may succeed with another blow,
Success is failure turned inside out--
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit--
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

Promises mean everything, but after they are broken, sorry means nothing.

Everyone wants to be the sun that lights up your life. But I'd rather be your moon, so I can shine on you during your darkest hour when your sun isn't around.

n ss!w !

AKU INGIN BERHENTI DI PLATFORM TAK BERNOMBOR DALAM HATIMU

Oleh Salman Sulaiman

http://pemainbahasa.blogspot.com/

Sudah beratus SMS yang telah kuhantar kepadamu atau mungkin beribu, tapi kau masih tetap juga membisu. Dan sudah beratus juga SMS itu kusimpan dalam buku catatan kerana aku bercita-cita untuk menjadikannya sebahagian daripada kenangan cinta, bolehlah nanti ketika berbulan madu kita mengenang semula bagaimana manisnya saat aku melamarmu. Setiap SMS yang kukirim, aku tidak mahu berbohong – aku sangat ternanti-nanti balasan darimu. Tapi sayangnya kau terlalu sibuk, terlalu sibuk! Perlu kuingatkan di sini, kepada diriku sendiri dan untuk dirimu lebih-lebih lagi – janganlah terlalu mahal menjual diri sampai tak mampu dibeli nanti.

Ramadan tahun sudah, telah tujuh kali istikharahku minta petunjuk dari-Nya, adakah benar kau yang dipilih Dia untuk hidupku yang sementara di dunia dan hidup yang lama di akhirat sana. Setelah istikharah yang kulakukan setiap selepas maghrib selama tujuh malam berturut-turut di bulan ramadan itu, kecenderungan hatiku masih juga kepadamu – masih juga kepadamu. Mana mungkin Tuhanku itu menipu. Aku sebenarnya masih menanti kebenaran dari Tuhan setelah keputusan istikharahku tetap juga kau seorang. Kebenaran, bahawa – hatimu akan tetap terbuka juga untukku.

Aku sedar, keputusanku untuk menunggu cintamu adalah keputusan yang paling berisiko tinggi yang pernah kubuat dalam hidupku ini. Yang mahu kujolok adalah bulan di langit, bukan rimbunan rambutan atau setandan kelapa. Mana mungkin aku akan berhasil mendapatkannya? Tapi aku yang tetap berkeras kepala mahu menjoloknya juga, maka sekarang inilah akibatnya – hatiku juga yang akhirnya teruk terluka.

Teringat prinsip kentalmu yang masih juga seperti dulu dan sayangku pun sebenarnya makin bertambah kerana itu – kau tidak pernah berkata mahu jika kuajak berdua ke kedai makan walaupun di sekeliling kita dipenuhi orang, kau lebih selesa berbual di kaki lima bangunan dekat orang lalu-lalang kerana kau terlalu takut timbul fitnah yang bermacam-macam. Syabas!, atas kekentalan prinsipmu sebagai seorang perempuan dan kerana keteguhan iman sebagai seorang Islam.

Izinkanlah aku berhenti di platform tak bernombor dalam hatimu. Izinkanlah aku terus berdiam lama di platform tak bernombor dalam hatimu itu. Aku tahu, sesiapa saja mahu berhenti di situ kerana ianya tidak bernombor dan juga tidak berpintu. Platform yang tak bernombor dalam hatimu itu terlalu manis dan indah bagiku. Aku sebenarnya sangat bahagia jika diizinkan menghuni di situ sampailah ke akhir hayatku. Dan yang telah sekian lama kutunggu hanyalah keizinanmu.

Aku sebenarnya sedang berusaha mengumpul wang untuk pernikahan kita – menjual buku, menulis untuk pelbagai majalah dan surat khabar, mengusahakan tanaman tembikai dan mengambil tempahan menyiapkan sajak serta teks muhasabah diri atas permintaan kawan-kawan. Menjadi pengacara majlis, mendeklamasikan sajak, mengajar anak-anak tentang seni dan sastera, berceramah dan membentangkan kertas kerja. Dan aku dibayar untuk semua itu. Ini semua kulakukan untuk mengumpulkan wang buat perkahwinan kita yang entah bila, yang entah jadi entahkan tidak sebenarnya – buat membahagiakan dirimu seadanya. Segala macam kerja yang mampu kubuat dengan kederat kerdilku ini, kulakukan. Segala yang boleh memberikan wang kulakukan berbekalkan sedikit kepandaian yang dianugerahkan Tuhan.

Aku bercita-cita mahu membelimu dengan mas kahwin tujuh ribu, walaupun barangkali ramai yang akan beranggapan aku mungkin tidak mampu. Tentu ramai yang bakal berkata, seorang penulis sepenuh masa sepertiku mana mungkin menyediakan wang hantaran untukmu sebanyak itu. Sejak dulu aku memang tidak pernah percaya dengan kata-kata manusia. Kerana yang aku percaya tetap juga seperkara, bahawa setiap rezeki kita makhluk yang bernyawa adalah di tangan-Nya. Dan Dia jugalah yang menetapkan rezeki hamba-Nya. Yang paling utama, kita mesti berusaha – pasti akan diberi-Nya. Nanti, sesudah berumah tangga kita akan menyewa di mana-mana dan aku boleh terus melakukan kerjaku tanpa diganggu – menulis dan membaca buku. Dan kau buatlah kerjamu itu seperti selalu.

Aku mengaku, aku tidak terdaya untuk menjadi seperti Imam al-Nawawi yang membujang sampai ke mati – hidup seorang diri tanpa isteri, hanya duduk menulis dan mengkaji. Aku memerlukan seorang isteri di sisi untuk menguatkan semangat diri bagi meneruskan perjuangan yang sukar ini. Aku telah kehilangan Salmi Rozie, aku telah kehilangan Siti Wan Mariani dan aku tidak mahu, aku juga bakal kehilanganmu nanti – yang tinggal kini hanyalah sebatang tubuh diriku sendiri. Dan yang ada sekarang, memang benar-benar dirimu seorang. Aku sangat takut sebenarnya, terlalu takut bahawa aku juga akan kehilanganmu kerana kini tiada lagi sunti yang akan mengubat sunyi dalam hati ini. Kalaulah kau juga gagal kujadikan isteri, entah siapalah yang akan mengisi kekosongan hidupku ini. Siapalah yang akan mengubat kerinduan hatiku ini. Sebagai lelaki aku sebenarnya sudah terlalu letih mencari. Aku sudah terlalu sengsara mengharapkan cinta manusia. Aku sebetulnya sudah berkali-kali kecewa.

Aku membaca buku Irfan Khairi, Nota Jutawan Nota Motivasi hampir setiap hari dan sangat meminati rancangan Bijak Wang di TV3. Menjejaki Jutawan Senyap oleh Chef Li juga sudah kubaca iaitu ketika aku masih di kampus lagi. Aku juga berkali-kali membaca Pelita Jutawan oleh Azizi Ali. Selain Nota Jutawan Nota Motivasi yang sangat menginspirasi, buku Ke Mana Wang Anda?hasil tulisan Hajah Rohani Datuk Haji Mohd Shahir juga menjadi buku yang berkali-kali kutekuni akhir-akhir ini dan terlalu banyak yang dapat aku pelajari daripada buku yang begitu bagus ini. Aku belajar tentang ilmu pengurusan kewangan, tentang bagaimana mengawal pendapatan – ilmu yang tidak diajarkan di sekolah atau di pusat pengajian tinggi dalam negara ini. Aku memperhalusi semua ini demi untuk memperkukuh ekonomi peribadi buat melamarmu nanti.

Aku membaca semua jenis buku, di MPH Mid Valley atau di PDM DBP Kota Bharu. Sampaikan komik Mat Som karya Lat pun kubaca dan aku sempat menghabiskannya tatkala lebih sejam tersengguk terhangguk di MPH, Mid Valley itu. Tauqul Hamamah oleh Imam Ibn Hazm al-Andalusi juga sedang kutekuni buat mengubat hati yang sudah entah berapa kali dikecewakan sunti. Aku sebetulnya mengembara seorang diri dan janganlah kau khuatiri – aku, laki-laki.
Apalah nasib diriku ini, terlalu sukar mencari hatta seorang sunti untuk dibuat isteri. Sudah bertahun-tahun sebenarnya aku tidak pernah putus-putus bertanya diri sendiri, siapakah yang akan Tuhan beri buat diriku ini untuk dijadikan isteri? Dan sudah bertahun-tahun juga sebenarnya aku mencari. Aku memang tidak pernah berhenti mencari, dari teduhan kampus di universiti hinggalah ke saat ini. Malah, ketika masih di bangku sekolah lagi. Dan kini, cintamu seorang sajalah yang kunanti walaupun kau sebenarnya sudah memberi kata putus bahawa hatimu masih juga tertutup untuk lelaki.

Bila sudah tiba masanya hatimu terbuka dan kau masih belum punya sesiapa, maka carilah aku di Pantai Tanjung Nipah ini, di atas buaian – dekat Masjid Tanjung Nipah. Tolong datang seorang diri. Aku memang masih setia menunggumu seperti selalu di pantai yang penuh kenangan ini. Tidak kisahlah hatimu terbuka dua atau tiga tahun lagi pun, aku masih tetap juga di sini – seorang diri bermain buaian di Pantai Tanjung Nipah ini. Aku ke mari dengan motosikal cabukku, bersama ibu atau kadang-kadang seorang diri – ke pantai yang sunyi dan sepi ini. Aku bahagia di sini – melihat deburan ombak, memerhati pantai yang memanjang yang penghujungnya entah di mana, mendengar deru angin dan kicau burung, melihat anak-anak bermain pasir, merenung kelibat nelayan yang menahan ikan atau udang serta melihat laut luas yang tak berpenghujung. Aku juga tidak pernah lupa mencari-cari kelibat si kecil Siti yang sangat berani – dia mahu mandi dan bermain ombak seperti orang dewasa. Dia hanya mahu berlari ke tengah laut tanpa mengira dirinya adalah seorang anak yang baru beberapa tahun cuma. Aku akan asyik pula mendengar neneknya bercerita tentang kenakalan cucunya yang bernama Siti ini.

Di Pantai Tanjung Nipah ini, aku akan asyik mengarang cerpen atau menulis puisi di telefon bimbit. Barangkali orang akan menyangka aku sedang menaip SMS yang panjang lebar kepada sesiapa, padahal mereka tidak pernah tahu aku sebenarnya sedang menyiapkan cerpen atau menyudahkan puisi. Dan sudah berapa banyak puisi yang telah kusiapkan dalam telefon bimbitku ini, puisi untukmu lebih-lebih lagi. Bersunyi-sunyi di sini mengembalikan aku jauh ke dalam kenangan – aku kembali teringatkan Teluk Ketapang. Sebuah pantai jauh di Kuala Terengganu yang pernah kuhuni lebih seminggu. 

Aku kembali teringatkan Kak Rosmani dan Abang Zahari. Aku kembali teringatkan Along, Angah, Firdaus, Aiman dan Ali. Kenangan bersama mereka begitu manis sekali dan sangat membekas di hati. Sekarang, yang tinggal untuk diriku hanyalah Pantai Tanjung Nipah yang sunyi dan sepi ini. Hampir setiap petang jumaat aku akan membawa diri ke sini. Bersendirian di sini memberikan aku sejuta ketenangan. Dan inilah satu-satunya cara yang dapat kulakukan buat mengubat kelukaan hati ini kerana aku sudah tak punya siapa-siapa lagi selain diriku sendiri.

Jangan cari aku di Facebook kerana aku belum sempat mendaftar di sana. Walaupun aku tahu ia sudah menjadi kegilaan begitu ramai manusia moden hari ini. Sampai kurasakan seperti hampir setiap orang yang menggunakan perkhidmatan internet itu mempunyai akaun Facebook. Aku bukannya suka sangat terlalu menjual diri hinggakan begitu dikenali. Aku lebih senang begini, seadanya diriku ini – aku lebih suka berjalan kaki dan naik bas pergi rata-riti atau terkadang-kadang menahan teksi, bersesak-sesak dalam komuter atau LRT, dan pernah juga aku merasa betapa seksanya duduk berhimpit atas beca roda tiga. Aku lebih senang tidak dikenali. Aku sangat bahagia sekali jika lebih ramai yang tidak mengetahui bahawa aku ini lulusan universiti. Biarlah aku dikenali hanya sebagai seorang anak petani yang mengerjakan sawah padi. Kerana aku memang dibesarkan dengan percik susu di kebun getah dan hanyir selut lumpur di tengah sawah. Aku bukan anak nelayan, jauh sekali jutawan.

Aku berkeyakinan sekali tentu benar jawapan Tuhan selepas istikharahku yang genap tujuh kali seperti yang pernah kulakukan dulu, maka aku akan tetap menantimu dan menunggu saat-saat indah menghuni di platform yang tak bernombor itu. Akan sampai waktu hatimu akan terbuka juga untukku. Aku tetap akan percaya itu dan tidak pernah putus-putus doaku dari waktu ke waktu sehinggalah hatimu benar-benar terbuka untukku, “Ya Allah ya Tuhanku, kurniakanlah kepadaku isteri dan anak-anak yang menyejukkan mata hatiku dan jadikanlah kami imam ikutan bagi orang-orang yang mahu bertaqwa.”

[Cerpen ini telah disiarkan dalam akhbar Mingguan Wasilah edisi 25 - 31 Oktober 2009] 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS

Dr. Harlina Halizah Siraj (( Alumni HO ; General Hospital KL - August 1991 to July 1992)

( I am a blessed mother of three beautiful living children and a deceased son since 1993 plus thousands more medical students since 1997. I started writing these tips as FB page entry since June 29th, 2011. If you can benefit from these, let's share them with as many parents out there)

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no.1 - Strive to be the best role model to your children. Make them proud of you first before you can expect them to make you proud. How about asking this question to your adolescent kids today : ` Have I ever made you proud, son/daughter?' Reflect on the answer, if you're gonna get one. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no.2 - Display your commitment, affection and love for each other (as parents & couple) for your children to see. Put on your best smiles the moment you step into the house, no matter how bad things are at work. Make your home as the sanctuary & heaven on earth for the kids. Keep it warm & cozy with your prayers and unconditional love for everyone. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 3 - Avoid degrading or talking bad about your spouse in front of the children. Remember, it is their father/mother you're complaining about. Don't try to win them over & make them go against your spouse. That's not win-lose, in fact, it is definitely a lose-lose! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 4 - Appreciate every single deed and help you received from your children. Thank them, praise them - loud and clear for everybody to hear. Put on your best smile while thanking them. You have just made up their day 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 5 - Practice what you preach. But don't preach every time you talk to the children. It might sound like a good sermon to you, but to them, it is simply a nag! Don't ever begin your sentence with ` When I was your age,..'. If you do, just watch their eyes rolling up & their ears turning deaf. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 6 - Provide spiritual guide to your children - they need the framework & structure. Never neglect spirituality in everything you do. Pray together as much as you could. Read the Quran and reflect on its meaning. Convince them, spiritual health is as important (if not more) as physical, mental & emotional health. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 7 - Apologize for your mistakes and shortcomings, tho' sorry is the hardest word, esp. for parents. We can be wrong too. The children need to be reminded that they're being raised by HUMAN BEINGS, not angels. Try hard not to repeat the mistakes. This might be the most difficult tip to practise! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 8 - Allow some space for your adolescents to make decisions and guide them from there. Trust them. Who else will if not you, the parent who raised them up! Don't doubt your parenting. Avoid suffocating them with your over-protectiveness. Let them learn from their mistakes. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no 9 - Introduce your children to your friends/colleagues. Exhibit how much you appreciate them & proud to be associated with them. Only then you could expect your kids to introduce their friends to you! 


SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 10 - Learn about your children's love languages. Each has a different, dominant type, tho' they might come from the same womb. Manage the diversity. Adapt the best parenting method for each of them. Get feedback - that's the only way to improve. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 11 - Thank Allah everyday for selecting you, of all the parents in the world, to be THE parent to these beautiful children. Feel honoured by the privileges of being a parent. Enjoy your parenthood - despite the hardship, pain, worries and sleepless nights (not mentioning the big bucks). Cherish your role - show how much you love being a parent! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 12 - Treasure your own parents, and let the children realize how much you love them. Visit their graves (if they are no longer alive) & tell the children amazing stories about their deceased grandparents. If they're still alive, allow the children to spend their holidays together. Allow grandparents to occupy a special place in the children's hearts & lives. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 13 - Involve the children in making plans for the family - renovating the house, buying a new car, selecting gifts etc. Best time to teach them about family value & traditions. Let them suggest, however indicate who's the boss. Be fair, sporting and reasonable - this is when the children learn the rules of the game. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 14 - Instill love for books & knowledge into your children's lives. Hang around in bookshops & never miss the annual book fair. Being digital natives, introduce them to e-books, digital readers & tablets. Read together as a family. You're enriching them with a legacy. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 15 - Be fair in showing off your affection to each of your children. Deal with sibling rivalry - do not just ignore it. Make time to understand the dynamics, address the dissatisfaction, attend to each complaint. Put yourself in their shoes - they always see things differently! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 16 - Learn to say NO to your children, esp. on matters of principles. Do not compromise your values to accommodate their demands. Provide guidance, framework & structure. They need those to lead a successful & meaningful future. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 17 - Avoid calling your children `problematic' - esp when you can't handle them. Let's rephrase - they are children with `difficulties' - varying degrees, of course. Some quite trivial, some really massive! They need your help & assistance. Do not give up or abandon them now! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 18 - Support each other in your parenting process. Display solidarity, restrain from open contradiction on parenting styles. Kids tend to be manipulative if they know you both have disagreement. Single parents, engage others (family, close friends) to support you. You shouldn't shoulder these duties alone! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 19 - Instill sense of belonging among your children. Train the young ones to respect the elder siblings, vice versa. Keep them closely knitted.Treat them equally, avoid favoritism. Express unconditional love. Everyone matters & has a special, dedicated place in everybody's heart. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 20 - Befriend your adolescent kids - if possible be their best friend . Avoid being their worst enemy. No doubt parenting adolescents can be most challenging, but they're also facing the most difficult phase of their lives. Friends are not judgmental, loyal and keep secrets well, while enemies despise & couldn't stand one another.Which one is you? 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 21 - Respond appropriately when others complained about your children's misbehavior/misconduct. Do not take it personally. Do not stage war or threaten to take legal action against the complainant before investigating thoroughly. It takes the whole world (not just a village) to raise a child these days. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 22 - Make time to read the Quran together with your children, especially the adolescents. Ponder on the translation. Help each other to memorize some parts of the Quran. Each child should have his/her own Quran (+ translation) hardcopy, besides a mobile phone @ laptop! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 23 - Raise your boys to be caring, thoughtful and responsible men. Never humiliate them in front of others, esp the siblings. Be a good listener and mind-reader. Listen to his silence. Read his body languages. Your teenage boy is sending out a message : SOS, help me survive this rapids of adolescence! Anybody listening out there? 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 24 - Engage in intellectual discussion with your spouse - on issues of environment, politics, socio-economics. Include the children in the discourse, get their opinions. Avoid gossiping about the neighbours/artists/politicians​. Stop quarelling over petty matters. Enlighten your home with rays of wisdom and virtues. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 25 - Play with your toddlers ( below five years) - that was what Saidina Ali ra proposed. Dads, carry them over your shoulders - give them the chance to see the world from where you stand. Rasulullah SAW did that to his grandsons. The child psychologists agreed that is the best way to carry your toddler! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 26 - Pay attention to your adolescent girl. She really wanna know whether she inherits your beauty, Mum! She desperately needs to know whether you think she's pretty and presentable, Dad! Assure her that in your eyes - she is the most beautiful and charming. She needs that affirmation to face the world of fake beauty outside! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 27 - Discipline your children (esp those between 7-12 years of age) with love. Sound familiar,eh? How can that be possible? If you really love them, train your children with discipline, self-restraint and strong will. Instill consistency and high standard of self-management. Unfortunately, it all has to start with you first!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 28 - Watch your children sleeping. See how innocent and peaceful they are! Thank Allah for trusting you to look after His beautiful, tender creatures. Promise Allah that you will seriously take good care of them. Keep to your promise - never ever forget that!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 29 - Listen to your children. I really mean it. LISTEN to their stories, laugh at their jokes and answer their questions. Give your undivided attention if they need you to listen to their worries, complaints etc. Look into their eyes. Once they're assured that you care enough for them, they are ready to face ANY challenges out there! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR PARENTS : Tip no. 30 - Groom your children with good manners - train them to say`Please', `Thank you', `Excuse me' etc. Teach them the right body language, facial expression and voice intonation that goes along with those pleasant words. Explain what rudeness means, make them aware of social norms & cultural values surrounding them.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS

DR. HARLINA'S SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS-

>> THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 8, 2011

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 1 - Thank Allah (God) for this golden opportunity. Allow yourself to be trained with the basic medical knowledge, skills, attitudes and behaviours that are essential for the profession. If you're a caring, responsible, unselfish and emphatic person, half the battle is won. If you're not, it's a long way ahead! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 2 - Do not be afraid to make mistakes now. As students, you learn thro' your mistakes and corrections by your teachers. If you're scolded or criticized for your mistakes, be strong. You could only be hurt or affected as much as you have allowed yourself to be! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 3 - Look forward for your exams, instead of being depressed over them. Two reasons for that; first - exams are TRADEMARK of medical schools (they are here to stay!), secondly - they serve as signboards, telling you how close (or how far) you're to the destiny. Enjoy & cherish them! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 4 - Enhance your passion & hunger for knowledge. You might have your own learning style, but you can always switch your approach from superficial to deep. Learn because you really wanna know, not for simply passing exams (superficial approach)! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 5 - Appreciate the cooperative patients who have agreed to allow you to examine them. Give them their due respect. Despite their pain and misery, they let you `disturb' their rest/sleep. Promise yourself that you will be a competent doctor one day, so all the patients' sacrifice for you would not go wasteful! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 6 - Apply active participation in your learning process. Force yourself to come forward the next time your clinical teacher looks for a volunteer to clerk a patient, perform a physical exam, assist in a procedure or operation. You will be rewarded with a great sense of achievement, much more than your passive friends - even if you gonna get some criticism/ negative feedback at the end. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 7 - Do not procrastinate, submit assignments before deadline. Do not postpone till the very last minute, no matter how tempting it is to delay. Put in your best effort in everything you do. Be exceptional, not just a mediocre! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 8 - Ask questions, clarify any area of doubt. Make it a must to ask your teacher before a teaching session ends. Keep asking - there are no such things as stupid questions - only stupid answers! A lot of active, critical thinking must come before asking...it might be too much for some, eh? No wonder you all are no longer asking these days! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 9 - Never leave God behind in your pursuit to be the men/women of medicine. As healers, we are the INSTRUMENT of God's mercy. Continue your strive to be close to Him, for you will definitely need Him endlessly. It is through your hands, words, eyes and smiles that God is going to cure and care for the sick and fallen. May you deserve such honour! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 10 - Keep in touch with your parents & family. They're your best support. Update them with your progress. Include them into your busy, busy stressed-up life. Share with them your sorrow, but convince them that you'll be fine with their prayers tagged along. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 11 - Try your best to make your teachers feel respected and appreciated. Take what is good from them, whilst forgive them for their shortcomings. Assist your teachers by getting actively involved in teaching learning activities. Make them interactive, lively, fun and enjoyable. Help your teachers, they need you to be on board! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 12 - Strengthen your friendship with peers, seniors & juniors. Don't be a loner. Help one another always. Study in a group, studying alone limits your understanding & perspective. The best way to learn is to teach! So, teach one another - you'll be amazed by the result of such teamwork. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 13 - Spend your holiday/semester break with your family. Visit your grandparents, uncles, aunts & cousins. Let them see the `new, better, matured' future family doctor whom they're so proud of. Impress them with your improved communication & interpersonal skills. Listen attentively to their complaints, groans & moans. Gently remind them, you're not yet licensed to treat... 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 14 - Manage your time wisely. Sleep early and wake up fresh. Do not compromise your sleeping time by spending too much time online. Chronic sleep deprivation will only result in higher level of stress! Stop the vicious cycle, NOW! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 15 - Pluck your courage to greet ALL your teachers when you meet them at the corridors/cafetaria/lifts etc. Don't expect them to remember your name, unless you're really exceptional. They might not be smiling back to you, but your consistent greetings will somewhat make your face familiar to them. At least they realize that you EXIST....and that really matters. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 16 - Train yourself to serve others always. After all, medical profession is about public servitude. Your calling is to go all out to help, assist and facilitate others. Altruism (placing other's interest before one self) is the keystone of medicine. Without it, the whole arch of medicine collapses! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 17 - Overcome your fear, sadness and uncertainties with constant reminder that what you're aiming for is not something ordinary. Training to be a medical doctor pushes you to your limits! Be warned, the sailing is not going to be smooth, it's an uphill climb, a lifelong commitment. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 18 - Learn to be genuinely interested in your patient's life - not simply his/her diseases. Remember this equation : Patient = Person + Disease. While learning how to doctor the disease, never forget to doctor the PERSON, who is made up of body, mind, heart & soul. 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 19 - Jump out of the bed with enthusiasm and excitement each morning. Promise yourself that you're going to make full use of the many golden opportunities in front of you. Say your morning prayers consistently, without fail. Look into the mirror and say it out loud : I believe I can be a better person today, better than yesterday, InsyaAllah! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 20 - Be emotionally intelligent. Manage your emotions wisely. Remember, emotion is the window to your thoughts. When you're feeling happy and motivated, you're thinking positive thoughts. When you're feeling down and demoralized, your head is full with negative thoughts. Ask yourself, how much do you want to ALLOW the trigger/stimulus to affect you emotionally...it's your own choice! 

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS : Tip no. 21 - Stop being a perfectionist, for one good reason - no human being can be perfect! Be kind to your self, please. Set an achievable target, strive to overcome challenges and acknowledge your own achievement, no matter how small. Wanting to excel will motivate you, aiming for perfection will only drain you out DRY!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 22 - Focus on your study. Do not allow distractions to interfere with your concentration. Apply deep learning strategy - focus on YOUR own pumping heart when you're studying CVS, on YOUR own thinking brain when you're reading about neurons & synapses! Studying is not supposed to be burdening, it should be liberating, enjoyable and empowering.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 23 - Fight your laziness with this reminder - nobody likes to consult a LAZY doctor, not even yourself! Being lazy is a waste of resources, a thief of your precious time and a betrayal to your potentials. Come on, grab the books, spend a lot of time in the wards/clinics and finish off your calls. Say goodbye to laziness TODAY!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 24 - Seek professional help ASAP once you detect symptoms of depression & anxiety within yourself. Lack of energy, loss of interest, insomnia, isolation and crying spells...to name a few. Help your friends with such symptoms - esp. if they're still in denial. Life as medical students can be very challenging & frightening, so monitor your progress closely!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 25 - Be exceptionally strong in your spiritual development. A doctor's soul needs constant enhancement and purification. It's your pure and sincere intention that serves as a shining beacon in the dark, showing you the way. Do not ever neglect your soul, or else you'll get easily de-motivated, demoralized, derailed and defeated!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 26 - Optimize your studying time to obtain as much medical knowledge
as possible. Take up all opportunities to sharpen your generic and medical skills. Equip yourself with appropriate manners and attitudes. Do not just aim for a borderline pass. How would you like consulting a doctor who only knows 5 out of 10 causes of acute abdominal pain?

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 27 - Take care of your love life, if you have decided you’re ready to commit for one. If it’s taking away too much of your time and energy, simply trying to make the other person happy – I guess you know where you’re heading to. Be wise in managing your priorities, first thing first! If things between you and him/her turn sour, do not mourn too long. Pick up the pieces and move on.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 28 - Return to your old schools if you have the opportunities to do so. Meet up your old teachers and motivate the juniors to follow your footsteps. Walk down those familiar corridors and bring back good memories, of how confident and enthusiastic you were feeling, once upon a time! Wonder where have all those feelings gone to? When did you exactly lose them? Work hard to regain those feelings.

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 29 - Pray that you are going to do everything better today, InsyaAllah. Promise yourself that today is going to better than yesterday and tomorrow should be better than today. That's the only way to improve and move forward. If you're doing otherwise, whereby today is worse than yesterday - you're really regressing, not progressing here!

SURVIVAL TIPS FOR MEDICAL STUDENTS: Tip no. 30 - Pay attention to the needs of your body, mind, heart & soul. When your body is tired & your mind is exhausted, find rest by uplifting your emotion & spirit. Do not drown your soul with fake entertainment - providing temporary relief. Handle your fragile emotion with care.